Have you ever noticed how…
*The busier you get, the more you pull back?
*The more success you start seeing, the more fear creeps in?
*The bigger the version of “You” starts to get, the more you want to run and hide?
You’re not alone. This is something that I see happen to most people who want to follow their passion in life.
You get excited about something, things start to move in a new direction…
And then suddenly…The fear creeps in and you don’t move forward. You stay in one place, feeling stuck or worse yet, you procrastinate.
While most people blame an outside source or come up with reasons why they shouldn’t move forward, those who do create success realize it’s just an “inner” opportunity they need to examine. And they delve in deeper to see what’s going on inside so they can create a mental breakthrough.
Here’s what’s happening when you take a closer look…
On a subconscious level, you realize you’re holding yourself back.
You’re literally sabotaging your own success.
While your goal is to follow your passion and create a new career or path you love, a part of you is terrified. Success starts to show up with ugly faces like less time with your family or having to figure out new things on your own, or making a decision that others don’t agree with or understand.
So instead of growing, you hold yourself back. In some respects, it feels safer.
But it’s a lie you’re telling yourself.
The lie is this:
It is safer to play small.
It is safer to not help more people.
It is safer to do what others think is best for me.
It is safer to put my dream on hold.
But here’s the breakthrough you can create: Realize it isn’t an “either-or” choice.
It isn’t, Either Follow Your Passion or Have a Family. You can do both.
It isn’t, Either Help More People or Have More Time. You can have both.
It isn’t, Either Make More Money or Have More Freedom. You can experience both.
Just because you want to change your career or start a new business or help more people doesn’t mean you have to give up the things you also care a lot about. You can have both, but you have to take the leap toward your goal in order to find out.
If you’re at a point in your life where you want to go to the next level, but you’re afraid it might mean:
- Working harder
- Less time with your family
- Making decisions on your own
- Spending money on yourself
- Getting uncomfortable
- Or giving up on certain things in exchange for other things….
Start by believing it’s possible. Next, find examples of people who are doing what you want to do. This helps to affirm your new belief that it’s possible. Then, create new networks of people that are in alignment with where you want to be. When you do these things, your mind starts to expand and new opportunities begin to show up.
Next, Make a list of all of your fears of why you “shouldn’t” do something. Ask yourself if these fears are truly warranted. Are they for certain? Or are they just fears? Is there any possibility they won’t occur? What can you do to make sure they won’t happen as you simultaneously move forward with your goal?
Finally, don’t overcomplicate things. Make a list of small action steps and just focus on one thing at a time. But commit to focusing on one thing and really moving forward with it each week.
Start with the possibility and then take the first step toward your dream. Life is too short to play small.
Love, Health, and Success,
Suzanne Monroe is the Founder of The International Association of Wellness Professionals and Director of the IAWP’s Wellness Coach Certification & Training Program. The IAWP is committed to supporting Wellness Coaches to create success and share the message of wellness across the globe. If you’re passionate about holistic health and wellness, inspiring others to be healthy and creating a career you love, then learn more by downloading our gift to you – The Wellness Coach Career Kit.
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